Q: How long have you been writing?
A: I started writing short stories when I was a teenager. They were pretty awful.
I also landed a book contract for a collection of essays and poetry I had written
in high school, but the publisher went under before the book saw the light
of day. Having looked over the manuscript years later, I'm glad it was never
published.
In college, I majored in journalism, but was fortunate
enough to take a few creative writing classes with renowned
author and Rumi scholar Coleman Barks. I learned a lot
from him.
After college, I stayed in journalism and broadcasting
for a few years, but life led me in other directions for
a decade or so. It's only been more recently, shortly after
turning 40, that I found my way back to it. Since then,
I have published a handful of self-help articles.
Q: Why do you write?
A: I have heard a question that asks, "If money was no
object and you could do anything you want to do, what
would it be?" For me, it would be writing.
In 2007, I quit my day job to take care of my in-laws,
which gave me a lot of free time. That hypothetical situation
where money is no object and I could do anything became
a reality for me. I chose to write.
I enjoy the process of creating a story out of imagination
and sharing it with others. I enjoy creating complex characters
who face difficult circumstances, who occasionally make
poor choices for the right reasons and who seek to become
better people.
I also enjoy the process of editing and rewriting. It
reminds me of putting together a puzzle, fitting together
phrases and scenes, removing verbal crutches, finding powerful
words that bring to life even the most sublime experiences.
This is why I write.
Q: Historically, you have written nonfiction, including
your first book Fight the Misery Conspiracy: Reclaiming
Your Right to be Happy. Why now are you switching
to fiction?
A: I started writing my first novel as part of NaNoWriMo — the
National Novel Writing Month, where 100,000 people all
over the world attempt to write a 50,000 word novel in
the month of November. I hadn't written fiction for years,
but figured it would be a good exercise in writing, self-motivation
and time management. I had no intention of publishing whatever
resulted.
But after I completed the rough draft, my partner encouraged
me to find a publisher for it. So I proceeded to revising
and editing it. Along the way, I fell in love with
the characters and the story. So much so, that I've set
aside all of my other projects.
Q: Can you tell us more about your novel?
A: It's entitled A Sense of Community. The story
centers around Kari Sullivan, a twenty-something lesbian
who's struggling to maintain her sobriety in Phoenix,
where there is no
centralized gay community. Along the way, flashbacks to
her college and early adult years give us snapshots into
the events that led to her addiction.
Q: Most lesbian literature focuses on coming out stories
and romance. Why did you choose to focus on the topic of
addiction?
A: I enjoyed reading the plethora of coming out stories
like Annie On My Mind and Rubyfruit Jungle,
especially right after I came out.
Likewise, lesbian romance has its place in lez lit. But
I was looking for something more, something that addressed
the
other
issues of life, including situations that have little or
nothing to do with being gay. When I couldn't find any,
I chose to write one myself.
Also, the sad truth is that the problems of alcoholism,
addiction, and suicide are far more prevalent in the gay
community
than
in the general
population,
often three or four times the national average. These
stories rarely get told in gay and lesbian literature.
But they need to be told. Addiction is killing our people.
Q: Is this book a memoir in a sense? Is it your story
of addiction?
A: Sort of. There are some similarities in my history and
Kari's, but there are a lot of major differences, too.
And that's true of all of the characters in the book. Not
a
single
character has a direct counterpart in real
life. They are all amalgamations of myself, people in my
life and pure imagination.
Q: When did you get sober?
A: On July 7, 1996.
Q: What led to your decision to stop drinking?
A: I found myself in the emergency room, having my stomach pumped. I had intentionally
ingested three dozen aspirin and a half-bottle of Irish whiskey. I knew then
that I had a serious problem that needed addressing.
Q: What have you learned about yourself and addiction
since you got sober?
A: You have a couple hours? [laughing] One of the important
things I've learned is the danger of resentments. Resentments
kill. Suicide, murder, accidental
overdoses, even terrorism — they can all be traced to resentments.
We hold onto negativity, not realizing how much it's
hurting us. In Buddhism, it's compared to picking
up burning coals with your bare hands with the intention
of throwing them at someone else. We always get burned.
Q: How do you deal with resentments?
A: I let go of my attachment
to outcomes. I focus on all of the blessings in my life.
I share with the loving, supportive people in my life what's
going on with me. I practice being in the moment. When
I do these things, the resentments go away.
Q: Do you have plans for a sequel to A Sense of Community?
A: Yes, my next book A
Sense of Family has Kari and her friends dealing with
a variety of issues related to the idea of family. Kari
wrestles with her relationship with her mother and brother.
Teri and Shane, a lesbian couple from the first book,
look into adopting a child. And another character, who
swore never to become a parent, finds herself as caretaker
to
an elderly parent with Alzheimer's.
I have some ideas for future novels centered around the
same characters, but I don't want to get too far ahead
of myself. I'm going to see what happens with these first
few and take it from there.
Q: Will Kari Sullivan be the main character of those as
well?
A: She will certainly be in the story, but I would like
to get to know some of the other characters as well. C.S.
Lewis did that with his Narnia series, where over time
he phased out the original four Pevensie children and replaced
them with other main characters.
One
of the things that makes A.A. and the other 12-Step programs
work is that we come and share our stories. We connect
with each other. So I want to share the stories of Kari's
friends as well.